STOP PUTTING PRESSURE ON YOURSELF TO HAVE IT FIGURED OUT

Karmen Tang
Founder of another startup story
July 15, 2019

Image: @anorganisedlife

Image: @anorganisedlife

Recently, I’ve felt a severe amount of pressure to have life all figured out and to find my purpose.  With new engagements popping up on my Facebook feed every weekend, society is a constant reminder of how I don’t have it all figured out. One of my biggest fears (and I know it’s a lot of other people’s too) is not wanting to be in the same place this time next year. We want to be making progress.  

 

But we are creatures of habit. We think somewhere between 60,000 to 70,000 thoughts in one day, and 90% of those thoughts are exactly the same as ones we had the day before. We get up on the same side of the bed, go through the same routine in the bathroom, brush our hair in the same way, sit in the same chair as we eat our breakfast and hold our cup in the same hand, take the same route to the same job, and do the same things we know how to do so well with the same people (who push the same emotional buttons) every day. And then we hurry up and go home so that we can hurry up and check our e-mail so that we can hurry up and eat dinner so that we can hurry up and watch our favourite TV shows on Netflix so that we can hurry up and go to bed at the same time so that we can hurry up and do it all over again the next day.

 

We often rush to complete things in life. Just going through the motions and doing things to tick a box. We rush to get to the destination when life is honestly about the journey. I’ve learnt this the hard way.

 

Life is a marathon not a race. And what I do know for sure is that I want to try everything that life has to offer. This is why I love to travel and experience different cultures, people, smells, tastes and sounds.

 

The goal of travel is "disruption from circumstance, and all the habits behind which we hide. And that is why many of us travel not in search of answers, but of better questions."
-Jason Silva


Travel is a mind-expanding drug, it exposes us to new situations, new reflections, new thoughts and all of that is mediated by neurochemistry. To travel is to see different ways of seeing the world through different cultures and belief systems. Experience of such perceptual expansion that you have to reconfigure your mental models of the world. Traveling leaves you with increases feelings of openness, of well-being, boost in creativity and empathy and compassion.

 

Whenever making a hard decision in life, I always use the grandma test and ask myself what makes a better story to tell my grandkids? The fact that she went and explored different parts of the world and started a business and failed or stayed in the same corporate job for 9 years and never left her apartment in London?

 

The world is much bigger, richer and more diverse than we imagine, so try as many things as possible whilst you can. Your first years of adulthood aren’t about earning money or building a career. They’re about getting acquainted with the world of possibility . Be extremely receptive. Taste whatever fate dishes up. Read widely, travel far, because stories are excellent simulations of life. Only as you age should you become highly selective.

 

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